Spouses who hate Horses..Do you have one??
YoungBuck
Reg. Oct 2005
Posted 2005-10-21 8:19 AM (#32101)
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Is it just me, or does anyone else have a spouse who hates/non-tolerate of horses?? In the beginning it was fine and dandy, my spouse helped me out with the horses. Now she says..."where you going...always feeding them damn horses,...... always riding them damn horses." Sometimes I wonder if I should cull her...not the horse!! Women need to understand the we don't want sit in the house and watch Lifetime (the man hating station) all day. Men need to have healthy hobbies (like horseriding,golf, fishing, Nintendo), if we don't have health hobbies we will develop un-healthy hobbies (like drinking, strip clubs, bar hopping). My family lacks nothing, I spend time with my boy (12 months),no problem of infidelity, financially we are comfortable....so whats the damn problem??? Sorry folks just venting.
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Posted 2005-10-21 8:37 AM (#32103 - in reply to #32101)
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It is sort of a jealousy thing with women. We think you don't want to spend time with us and would rather be out riding or hunting or fishing. We also get pissy thinking you are having more fun than we are and we are the ones always taking care of the kids and cleaning the house and making your meals, while you are out having fun with your healthy hobbies. Your wife needs to get over it!!! I used to be like that with my hubby in our first year or so of marriage. I soon learned to deal with the fact that my husband needs these outlets and I would rather him be up at camp or out on the lake fishing than going to the bar with buddies. My husband isn't in to the horse thing too much and yet , he doesn't nag me when I am off to a show or out riding. He knows my horses are my escape and make me happy just like his hunting takes his mind off of work.

Does she like horses? Buy her a horse and get her involved!

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santelikk
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Posted 2005-10-21 9:13 AM (#32104 - in reply to #32101)
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Buck,  From my observations you are in the minority.  Usually it is the wife that has the horses and the husband who does the nagging.  I guess its too late to say look around at the show for some of the ladies there who wish the could find a guy interested in horses.  Ask her what she would like to do for a relaxing time.  Offer to watch the little one for the night and let her go out with her friends.  This might be all she needs.  Also make her feel special.  Shock her and bring her home flowers one evening.  I found Walmart has some good choices for less than $5. These are some of the things I found that work for myself. 

Good Luck. Kevin

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huntseat
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Posted 2005-10-21 9:35 AM (#32105 - in reply to #32101)
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The question is for you...

Why did you marry her?  It was your choice!

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YoungBuck
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Posted 2005-10-21 10:16 AM (#32107 - in reply to #32105)
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"Why did you marry her" Huummmmm Well, because I was in-love. They say Love is Blind....but marriage opens your EYES. She doesn't want a horse for herself. When I go out-of-town (job), I have to pay my buddies to feed my animals (Dogs & horses). My wife knew I was animal hobbyist before we got married. She knew I majored in Animal Science, so it wasn't an idea that pop into my head one mourning...."hey honey I guess I'll be a horseman today".
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Posted 2005-10-21 10:18 AM (#32108 - in reply to #32104)
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Originally written by santelikk on 2005-10-21 6:13 AM

 Usually it is the wife that has the horses and the husband who does the nagging. 

It's like that in my house. Especially when I "had" to buy a new Dodge, new horse trailer. And the farrier bill is here, vet has to come out, time for shots and worming. Don't forget when "we" have to buck 12-15 tons of hay in 95 degree heat. He is always quick to point out how much we spend on them. Then I am quick to point out that I had horses BEFORE i knew him and married him. My horses and I were a package deal! Granted, I only had 1 horse when I met him, but since then, I had to buy 3 more to keep the others company. I have showed him how easy it was to get an elk out deep in the woods. I'm getting him involved more (it's been 10 years) and it is getting a bit better. Like someone else said, try and get her involved with the fun side of horses, not the poop scooping part...that can come later.

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Posted 2005-10-21 10:24 AM (#32109 - in reply to #32105)
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Originally written by huntseat on 2005-10-21 9:35 AM

The question is for you...

Why did you marry her?  It was your choice!



Wow, that's bit harsh...

I experienced what you described about three year ago with my husband.
I changed my behavior. Focused more on him when we were together, gave
up a little horse time now & then to just sit around with him. It made
an amazing difference. He even shows some interest in how I'm getting along
with my horses and actully helped me pay for my current horse!!
Well worth the small effort on my part.

-Betty
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Terri
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Posted 2005-10-21 10:26 AM (#32110 - in reply to #32108)
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It's like that in my house. Especially when I "had" to buy a new Dodge, new horse trailer. And the farrier bill is here, vet has to come out, time for shots and worming. Don't forget when "we" have to buck 12-15 tons of hay in 95 degree heat. He is always quick to point out how much we spend on them. Then I am quick to point out that I had horses BEFORE i knew him and married him. My horses and I were a package deal! Granted, I only had 1 horse when I met him, but since then, I had to buy 3 more to keep the others company. I have showed him how easy it was to get an elk out deep in the woods. I'm getting him involved more (it's been 10 years) and it is getting a bit better. Like someone else said, try and get her involved with the fun side of horses, not the poop scooping part...that can come later.

 

That sounds very familiar.  I think I hear it about once a month. 

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huntseat
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Posted 2005-10-21 10:27 AM (#32111 - in reply to #32101)
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If you have to pay your buddies to come over to your house and feed your DOGS when she's sitting at home, I'd tell her like it is!  That's just pure STUPID!  You let her get away with it now she'll have you cleaning house next.

I'm a chick and gals like that piss me off, can ya tell?

You'd better get that little girl to GROW UP!  Does her mother know she's snotty like that?

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Posted 2005-10-21 11:36 AM (#32117 - in reply to #32101)
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Geez Youngbuck, I feel for ya, but maybe she has a few reasons for being "snotty".
I made my husband pass the horse test on our first date! Yep, we went riding! He was a decent rider, and liked it, so he passed. That was 18 years ago, and we both love riding equally. I wouldn't have married any man that didn't like horses or any animal for that matter.
However, for your wife's sake, maybe try a little harder not to talk horse stuff all the time? (I know, it's darn near impossible!). If you love her like you say, then she's worth it. Maybe you could try to slowly get her hooked on horses? When she says "those damn horses", don't get defensive, but maybe ask her why do you say that? Surely she has hobbies, do you trash them? You might explain to her how important your horses are to you, and you don't appreciate her remarks. If you are going out of town for work, then I would think that she would be able to do chores, after all it's her place too. Marriage is not easy, and sometimes you have to work at things!
My brother and his wife had totally separate interests. He rode Harley's and she rode Horses! They never fought about it, and he (even though he didn't ride) bailed the hay and even seemed to like spending time with the horses sometimes. (we grew up raising and boarding horses)
It's hard to have something that you feel so strongly about when your spouse is so dead set against it. If your marriage is strong enough, and you love her, then it's worth trying to keep it going!
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Posted 2005-10-21 11:37 AM (#32118 - in reply to #32101)
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So why in the beginning was it all "fine and dandy"? Was that during the courting stage and she felt in order for you to fall in love with her she had to show an interest in your horses?

So what happened to the "fine and dandy"? I still feel she is jealous of your time spent with your 4-legged friends.

But obviously if "mama ain't happy, no one's happy"!

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YoungBuck
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Posted 2005-10-21 12:17 PM (#32127 - in reply to #32117)
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My wifes not snooty. She's a down-to-earth country girl, but the country is not in her. SHe waw raise by a single mom who didn't allow her to have animals, they barely have enough food to eat. She doesn't have any hobbies but Lifetime. My riding buddies always tease me saying "you got punk"(MTVshow). I have dreams of becoming a True Horseman like Richard Shrake or Dennis Reis one day, but I see my dreams slowly diminish with her in the picture. If I'm having problems now, I know once I start growing has a horseman the problems will grow too?? Every man gots to have to Dream!!!
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Posted 2005-10-21 12:33 PM (#32128 - in reply to #32101)
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Someone above posted that things were like during their first year of marriage.  I'm hoping you got married before children came into the picture.  SO that puts you outside that window of 12 months.

Maybe it's just me, but doesn't a country girl by definition have the country in them?  Her not caring for your animals is her saying, I'm not pitching in for your things.  If she won't care for them now that might be your warning of things to come.

The choice was/is always yours.  Have you talked with her regarding these matters and what they mean to you?

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Posted 2005-10-21 12:58 PM (#32130 - in reply to #32127)
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 She doesn't have any hobbies but Lifetime.

Maybe thats the problem. My husband calls that the man haters channel.  And I agree with him.  Try to take her out and get her interested in something.  I was raised in a childrens home where we were not allowed to have animals and after highschool I didn't have enough to eat for a while, but that doesn't mean my husband can't have outside hobbies/interests.   Sometimes it drives me nuts paying $40 for a concert ticket for him or holding dinner so he can stay after work and lift weights with his friends, but on the other hand, I'm sure I drive him nuts when I buy stuff for the horses or when he keeps our youngest so I can go on a overnite/weekend trailride.  It's a trade off.  I don't like concerts so I keep the kids, and when I ride (with the 9 yr old) he keeps the 3yr old.  There has got to be some "give" or it just won't work.

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Ike
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Posted 2005-10-21 1:51 PM (#32136 - in reply to #32101)
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My wife developed the horse hobby about 15 years ago.  I though she was spending too much time and money on them, but it seemed to please her so I let it go. Tried to get her interested in fishing, hunting, competive shooting....no luck...so guess what?   I got a horse and we camp & ride all the time now. I love it....and when I want to go hunting for a few days....now its OK.  Find something you both like and spend some time together, the horse will be there when you get back.
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Posted 2005-10-21 3:18 PM (#32145 - in reply to #32136)
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Originally written by Ike on 2005-10-21 12:51 PM

My wife developed the horse hobby about 15 years ago.  I though she was spending too much time and money on them, but it seemed to please her so I let it go. Tried to get her interested in fishing, hunting, competive shooting....no luck...so guess what?   I got a horse and we camp & ride all the time now. I love it....and when I want to go hunting for a few days....now its OK.  Find something you both like and spend some time together, the horse will be there when you get back.

I could have written this almost verbatim as my story.  Hundreds of thousands of dollars later, I love living on acreage, with a tractor, horses, truck & trailer, camping & riding... in that order. Our marriage is strong because of horses.

Youngbuck.. I hope something happens as good, for you & your wife.

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RichB
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Posted 2005-10-21 5:23 PM (#32148 - in reply to #32101)
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That's a different spin on the usual problem.  Usually it is the husband who is not interested in horses.  I'd be leary of a women who doesn't like horses, that's almost unnatural.  It sounds like you married a couch potato.  What a waste of life, to sit indoors watching daytime TV. That's my version of hell. Show me someone who doesn't like horses and I'll show someone who doesn't know a thing about horses or the lifestyle.   

It boils down too this, if she LOVES you, she will understand that horses are critically important to you, and would be understanding, this is especially true if you were horse crazy before marriage.  You are in tough situation, but she needs to be understanding. Maybe it's not the horses, kind of sounds like she is just unhappy in general.  People, especially family members, that seem to get upset when you are enjoying yourself or having fun, are just unhappy with thier life.  So when they see you having fun, they resent you.  My wifes mother is like this.  She has had the easiest life, her husband, my father-in-law, is a millionaire, they have been married for over 40 years.  She lacks nothing and has never had to work (in the traditional sense) and gets everything she wants.  She can go anywhere and do anything.  What does she do... she sits at home and complains about how tired she is, just a waste of life.  Anyways, because she is so unhappy, she resents it when she sees her daughter happy.  She will never babysit for her so she can work with the horses (working horses makes my wife happy), we have to hire a babysitter. She wouldn't babysit for us so we could go away for our 10 year wedding anniversary (because she might have fun), we had to hire a babysitter.  It's really sad.  But the point is, unhappy people will always be unhappy and critcal of you when ever you are living and enjoying your life, because they are jealous and would rather you be miserable too. 

Horses are a good thing, as long as you're keeping your life in balance, do your thing and ignore her.   



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Posted 2005-10-21 6:14 PM (#32150 - in reply to #32101)
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Even if she does'nt like animals she should not begrudge you because you  like them.  It is hard to find someone who is passionate about horses.  Good luck.
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Posted 2005-10-21 6:58 PM (#32151 - in reply to #32101)
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RichB

You hit it right on the nail. Well said.

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Posted 2005-10-22 6:15 PM (#32173 - in reply to #32101)
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Buck,

Please understand that you are a male, your wife is female. You will never be able to do anything right! Just get used to it!!!
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Posted 2005-10-22 11:20 PM (#32177 - in reply to #32101)
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Listen the first time around my wife killed me about my horse. The second time around I married my riding partner and there is never a question about the horses. I have my two old guys who are retired and my current ride all in the back yard with her palimino. Now they are no longer mine and hers, but they are ours!!!
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Posted 2005-10-23 12:54 PM (#32190 - in reply to #32101)
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I've gotta chime in!

My hubby is not horsey at all and his greatest fear is for me to buy another horse & expect him to ride with me.  LOL!   I'm not working so try to ride during the week when he's at work.  I have been on a few weekend rides and gone from Friday to Sunday and feel just a little guilty...but not enough NOT to go. ;)

It's a balancing act but it sounds like your scales are way off. To pay someone to care for your animals when your wife is home & watching TV is too much!  I've never watched Lifetime or whatever... I'm an RFD watcher when I'm in the house.  

I'm sorry you're in this position because life is too short to be unhappy.  I hope you can find a way to get your wife to accept your love for horses.

Good Luck!

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Posted 2005-10-23 1:05 PM (#32191 - in reply to #32101)
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this is tough since we are only getting your side of the story. I have no idea how your whole family life is. Suffice it to say, my guess this has alot more to do with than just horses. There is more to this than your telling us ( willingly or unwillingly) My husband is not a horsey guy- I know this and accept this, I cannot change him. For 23 years we have been married, I have had horses about 19 of them. But the family has always come first. I would never set my kids up to live without their father, in a divorce situation. I'd give up the horses before I would let that happen. My childrens home is too important. if your willing to dump the wife and set your child up to live in a broken family just because of a HORSE, then there is something wrong with you. Your first obligation is to your family. Maybe its time you too see a counselor and get to the bottom of this.

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Posted 2005-10-24 3:13 PM (#32244 - in reply to #32101)
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I can sympathize......I have a non-horsey husband. I would love to have him involved in horses but it's just not his thing. I sometimes feel guilty for being gone all day to ride, but we understand we both need our "individual" time. When I'm out riding, he's doing his gardening / landscaping and we plan something for "us" later in the day. We try to make the most of the time we do spend together but respect each other's need to have some space. Have you sat down with your wife and discussed it? Perhaps if both of you came to a mutual agreement on what days or times you both can enjoy your "individual" time, there would be less resentment on her part when you do spend time riding. It sounds like she thinks the horses are more important to you than she is.
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Posted 2005-10-24 8:58 PM (#32264 - in reply to #32244)
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Wow-do I feel lucky after reading all these! Myhusband is the non-horsey type but has never said a word when I, too, "had" to have a truck, trailer and a younger horse because the one I had when we got married was too old to show (and one-eyed to boot). When we were engaged my best friend's husband made her sell her horse and I told him then that he and I were never going to have that conversation because the horse had been around longer than he had. I'm not sure who cried harder when we had to put him down last November-him or me.
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Posted 2005-10-24 10:28 PM (#32266 - in reply to #32101)
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My husband is a non horse person but supports my habit.  I can't remember a time when I didn't have a horse and that's how my husband found me.  Sure he still complains when he's putting three loads of hay in the barn in 90 degree weather and fixing fences.  He'll complain sometimes about having to do it for the horses and I'll remind him it's not for the horses but for me and that's what he gets for the pleasure of being married to me.

I think there's more than one issue here and your wife not liking horses isn't the biggest.  Your wife is jealous of the time you spend with them and not her.  There's also a power and control issue and your wife not having a life of her own or hobbies creates another issue.  She's also probably lonely.

It took me a long time to realize in my marriage that my husband neeeeeds his time to himself and when he's out hunting or fishing he comes home happy which makes us both happy.

Make sure you spend quality time with your spouse and try to get her involved.  My mom never rode horses but still enjoyed the camping part and the great people you meet involved with horses. If she doesn't get involved with horses try to get her involved with something else that would give her a hobby.  Encourage her to spend time with friends.  Take her out to eat once a week. 

There's a lot of give and take in a marriage.  I spend one week a year on a horse camping/riding vacation and my husband will take vacation hunting.  Sure I'd much rather have him with me on vacation but at least he doesn't stop me from doing something I love nor do I try to stop him for hunting. 

Just this last weekend I asked my husband "who is cooking supper tonight?"  and he said "I'm hunting" and I said "I'm going riding" then he said "at least we're both getting to do what we like to do" so chili in the crockpot it was.

Just remember you always have a choice and it takes two to make a marriage work.  Good Luck!

 

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Posted 2005-10-24 10:44 PM (#32267 - in reply to #32101)
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Farmbabe made the suggestion to see a counselor and I think that too. Something is wrong at the base of the relationship and the sooner addressed the better. And divorce is not the worst thing that can happen to a child. There are several good self help books on the subject of divorce....one of which is "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Survivng Divorce" and it has a check list at the front to help you analyze whether the marriage can (or should be) saved. If your wife will not go to a therapist, then go yourself. Good luck.
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Posted 2005-10-26 1:06 PM (#32351 - in reply to #32111)
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Posted 2005-10-29 5:52 PM (#32495 - in reply to #32101)
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Ok i saw where it was said that buck seems to be puttin his horses first. I'm sorry but it doesn't seem that way to me. I am a horse nut to the core and my husband has always known this. Bucks wife knew he loved horses prior to marrying him. They were a part of him when she met him and if she disliked it so much then she should have said so waaaayyyy sooner.  As far as her having no hobbies except lifetime well it happens. Its hard as a mother and a wife to make time for yourself to have hobbies outside the home. I have 4 kids and money is tight. We no longer have any horses due to finances. I made that choice for my family. Had i chose to keep the horses at the risk of my families welfare it would be a matter of puttin the horses first. Now all the advice i can give you Buck is to include your wife a little more often into your plans. Take her out and find something you both like to do. She may just be  lonely as sin and wanting more attention from you. I went that route with my husband because i was jealous that he had friends and i never got the chance to make any. After the horses were gone i won't lie i was unhappy and resentful everytime i saw him having fun with his friends because i didn't have any anymore. I wanted him all to myself so i would have someone to talk to beyond a conversation of "Mommy I'm hungy, I gotta pee, I'm thirsty, He hit me , etc etc...". All I can say is sit down and have a long talk with your wife and find out exactly why she resents the horses. Maybe just maybe she is jealous of the time you spend with them instead of her. How many horses do you have? Perhaps having fewer and spending more time with her woud be a midpoint you two could reach. I mean lets face it horses are time consuming even though they are worth it. Have her help you decide which ones to keep. Get her out with them not neccasarily to ride or work at all. Encourage her if nothing else just to smell ones nose just once they have the most amazing soft leather smell. All aside as far her not taking care of them while you are away i can kind of see that I mean its your hobby although it wouldn't hurt her one bit to go out and feed them. As far as her refusing to feed the dogs thats another story. I mean if all you have is one or two dogs and not a hunting pack there is no reason she cannot take 10 minutes out of the day to feed and water them. Think about some counseling it may put both your views into better perspective for both of you. All I can really say is talk talk talk and talk some more about you and her. ( I know its hard to not talk about horses,...lmao standing joke with my husband is I cannot talk without sayin something about a horse..lol) Anyways best of luck. Now is teh time to make your decision as to how much you love your wife. Marriage is full of sacrifices but they are only a sacrifice if the love isn't strong enough. I gave up my dreams for my husband and i resented it for a long time but I can honestly say it has been well worth it. Perhaps yuo should think about what she may have given up when she decided to get married to you as well. Maybe she has dreams that will never happen now and resents yuo having the option to actually do yours. Well I'm gonna shut up for now best of luck.
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Posted 2005-11-05 6:45 PM (#32724 - in reply to #32101)
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I am a kinda horse person. However my wife is a horse nut. I like to hunt and if I ride I want to be well mounted. So we got me a great horse and she has a geed horse and we do the horse togather. However I still got my hunting habit and she has stopped mentioning all the money we spent the 3 years I fished as a pro. So in the end it will all wash out.

I think if she is just sitting at hime watching lifetime. (assolutly the man hatting channel) then she my be over whelmed by being married and having a kid. I suggest you sit down and talk to a neutral party about the problem. It maybe something as simple as she is feeling overwhelmed. I could never have my wife pay someone to feed the animals while I was off an home.

 

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Reg. Mar 2005
Posted 2005-11-15 1:43 PM (#33069 - in reply to #32101)
Subject: RE: Spouses who hate Horses..Do you have one??


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What rotag said..lol.
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Reg
Reg. Oct 2003
Posted 2005-11-18 8:42 AM (#33207 - in reply to #33069)
Subject: RE: Spouses who hate Horses..Do you have one??


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Ahh, an "Equine Envy" topic.
(-:

Seriously, I'd guess this to be just a symptom.
There are other sides to these equations; dissimilar interests, (lack of)motivation to share/accommodate each other's pastimes, on and on... including the j_word

I'd find it VERY difficult to breeze in after a work day and cheerily ask what the high point of the day was on the man hater tv channel {or Oprah, judge somebody, etc.}
OTOH, what was the high point of picking out the stalls ?

there's always another hand to be on.


Edited by Reg 2005-11-20 7:35 AM
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Reg. Jan 2004
Posted 2005-11-19 1:11 PM (#33246 - in reply to #33207)
Subject: RE: Spouses who hate Horses..Do you have one??



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Originally written by Reg on 2005-11-18 8:42 AM

Ahh, an "Equine Envy" topic.

Now that there is funny, I don't care who you are!

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